What Do You Say by Making a Baby?
Jul 3rd, 2008 by Micah Tillman
One of The Wife’s jobs has her working with babies. So every day she comes home from that job (it’s not a Mon-thru-Fri deal), I get to hear about all the cuteness.
We love babies. A lot. We go to church on Sundays so we can baby watch. They’re so cute!
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And one of these days I’m going to write a book on the phenomenology of babies, to figure out why its so much fun to be around them (when you’re not the one who has to take care of them, anyway). There’s something about the innocence and newness of their experience of the world that affects your experience of the world.
It’s like when you watch a movie you’ve seen a million times (and would never want to watch again) with a friend who’s never seen it, and get all excited about watching it again. Seeing something with someone changes your experience of it. And phenomenology is the philosophy that deals with these kinds of issues.
But I haven’t figured it all out yet, and thus will have to sit down and write a book about it someday.
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Despite all this, The Wife and I refuse to have children (at least for the foreseeable future) because by having a baby, you say two things which (at the moment) we cannot say :
(1) “I can take responsibility for the care and formation of another person for the next 18 years (i.e., I have the financial, spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and social resources/maturity to actually fulfill my responsibility to my child),” and
(2) “Given that I can take responsibility for another life, I actually want to (because life has been so awesome for me that I want to make more of it, give it to someone who hasn’t had the chance to live it yet).”
I find it surprising that anyone can make both those claims. In fact, I find it surprising that anyone can make either of those claims.
But I’m a cynic, and don’t trust myself to actually see issues like this very clearly.
So help me out. What do you think people are saying by deciding to create a new human?
